zLesson 5: Chore Jar

Chore Jar.

The best way of changing behavior is to reward kids for doing a misbehavior’s “Positive Opposite.” But sometimes they also need a mild, easy to administer negative consequence. A Chore Jar with slips listing extra chores (that are not a child’s normal jobs) makes this easy. (Slips can also be color-coded for difficulty.) When kids misbehave, they have to randomly pull out a slip and do the chore before they play. Keep track of the slips on the “Calm Consequences” tracking sheet. Extra Chores provide a “Response Cost,” teach kids useful skills, and keep the house cleaner. It’s a win-win for everyone!



Write down ideas for “extra” chores for mild consequences. The best way of changing behavior is to reward kids for doing a misbehavior’s “Positive Opposite.” But sometimes they also need a mild, easy to administer negative consequence. A Chore Jar with slips listing extra chores (that are not a child’s normal jobs) makes this easy. (Slips can also be color-coded for difficulty.) When kids misbehave, they have to randomly pull out a slip and do the chore before they play. Extra Chores provide a “Response Cost,” teach kids useful skills and keep the house cleaner. It’s a win-win for everyone!

Here are some additional ideas if you don’t have very many:

  • Shake rugs
  • Sweep stairs
  • Sweep the porch
  • Remove cobwebs in each room
  • Dust picture frames
  • Wash window(s)
  • Dust shelves
  • Wipe baseboards with damp rag
  • Clean handprints off doors, doorjambs, and light switches
  • Scrub the shower or bathtub grout with a small brush
  • Wash, dry, fold and put away an extra load of laundry
  • Scrub the fronts of kitchen or bathroom cupboards
  • Scrub fronts of dishwasher, oven, or fridge
  • Sanitize kitchen counters with anti-bacterial wipes
  • Clean the microwave inside and out
  • Sweep under the kitchen table
  • Clean and polish all the mirrors
  • Empty all the trash baskets
  • Dust lamp shades
  • Clean a toilet
  • Vacuum or sweep one or more rooms
  • Clean underneath beds and couches to get rid of “dust bunnies”
Here is the list of chore jar entries:

Lesson: 1 min:1 mid:3 max:5

Name of Meal Describe your meal Who will help? Actions